Why finding love shouldn’t be a race
Do you feel that tension to rush to the altar because your clock is ticking or that all of your friends are getting married? Do you want to expedite the arrival of Mr. or Mrs. Right and feel frustrated in your search?
Why do some people meet their partner faster than others? I get asked this question quite often. Some feel frustrated because it takes them longer to find the right match, especially when they watch their friends who aren’t into spiritual or personal growth snatch up husbands like candy. They wonder, does all this personal growth make a difference?
The reason why most people are quick to get into relationships is that they are only dating on the persona level. The list of qualities they seek in a mate are very superficial and it is easy to spot someone who fits their surface criteria. They don’t require much depth and are fooled by the high of infatuation believing it is love.
Most of the population enters into relationships on the superficial level. They wear their masks and fall in “love” with their partner’s mask and never really get to know the other person on a deeper level. When the infatuation wears off, they start projecting their own shadow onto their partners. They complain about their partners or even cheat because they lost that loving feeling.
In surface relationships, partners will either stay miserable in their marriage (because it is too uncomfortable to change) or they divorce and find another mask to get infatuated with and the cycle begins again. Look at how many times your friends have been married.
Some fast-trackers may even try to dabble into a little personal development work as a means to an end. They aren’t really interested in knowing who they are or improving their life or becoming more spiritual, they just want the magic potion to get their man (or woman). These people aren’t serious about finding a deeper love. Once the void is filled, all they learned is disregarded and they go back into their superficial life of infatuation and projection.
The reason finding the right person may be taking you longer is that you are looking for something real. There are a small percentage of people who are waking up from their sleepwalking state with the desire to have a true love. If you are reading this, you are one of the few.
Deep down, even though you may ache for someone right now, you know you want it all. You haven’t settled yet and you aren’t going to settle now. Even though your mind is filled with doubt, you do believe he or she is out there. You want to prepare for this great love because you want it to last and be rich and satisfying. You want to make the RIGHT choice.
This is where your investment in learning about yourself will pay off a thousand-fold. By taking a little more time, growing yourself and learning to make more conscious choices, you will avert the emotional and financial problems that stem from getting married to the wrong person too quickly.
Imagine this. You are like the fruit at the top of a tree. The farmers say they are always the sweetest and most delicious. The lower hanging fruits may get picked first, but always before they are ripe by other impatient people who are too lazy to make an effort to go to the top.
You want to find a partner who is willing to climb the tree and bypass the easy catch. He or she is someone who is brave enough to grow just like you and patient as they climb to reach the top to find you. This is sweet, lasting love and the harvest is evergreen.