What you don’t know about YOU that is keeping you single
When you describe yourself online in a profile or your friend describes your qualities to a potential blind date match, this is not the real you. We all have personas or masks we wear that protect our soft chewy vulnerable center. The masks are so strong, you forget the real self and think the surface is all there is about you.
This is a big problem when it comes to finding love because you don’t match up based on the persona, but the hidden unconscious parts of you. People are drawn together like puzzle pieces, a perfect fit that compliments their unconscious selves. “If you don’t make this unconscious part conscious, it will direct your life,” as Carl Jung says, “and you will think of it as fate.”
Who is the real you? This is the part of you that is your pure self before all the conditioning of the world. You came into this world with unlimited potential for love, but you learned to play it safe and hide parts of you to follow the herd and survive. Then, you forgot about these parts that you hid away and think you are the mask you created.
Even after doing tons of self-help work, you may still be trying to shine up the mask. You may try to heal your childhood or your past conditioning. The reason you are still stuck is that you are just re-arranging the furniture, replacing one mask with another and never getting to the truth of who you really are beyond the storyline of your life.
If you want true love, you have to go beyond the story and into your deepest self. You are not fixing the past, but seeing it for what it is…past. Nothing that has ever happened in your life has the power to limit or control you.
Do not seek someone to make you feel better about yourself, you are already great. If you accept that you are more than your personal history, you can connect with a man or woman on that deeper, transpersonal level. This is true love.
The yoga tradition uses the word “Namaste” which means the divine in me recognizes the divine in you. Imagine a love relationship at that level? Instead of projecting your hurts and past pain onto dates and partners, you are seeing your own magnificence in their presence.
The real you is waiting for real love. Go inside and discover the truth of who you are beyond the stories, the masks and the shadows you cast onto others. When you know yourself on this spiritual level, you can’t help but attract someone who sees your amazing self too.
Quote: “In your presence I fell more in love with the best of myself. That was your gift.” – William Cummings