What do you need to let go of to find your true love?
Often when you do any type of personal development, the process may feel as though you are struggling to get to better state of mind. You read, meditate, attend workshops and journal your way to enlightenment. Just like in the search for love, the answer always seems to be something you need to DO to finally draw in your true partner.
One of the biggest lessons I learned over the years was that I wasn’t broken, that I already had an enlightened state of mind, love and abundance inside of me. There was nothing else I had to attain, but rather, I needed to let go of some behaviors and beliefs that were clouding my vision of my ideal life.
Until you find your true love, their arrival may seem impossible for you at times. Your mind will distract your will toward the outside forces in order to preserve the status quo. Seeking outside for the result only deepens your frustration and keeps you in a pattern of disbelief.
Instead of focusing outward, imagine that you are an amazing rocket ship fueled with all the love, abundance and happiness you can ever dream of experiencing in this life. You have everything inside propelling you forward, all you need to do is let go of the tiny tethers of your limited thinking that are holding you back from stepping into your amazing self. Simply know that the divine in you wants what you want more than you want to receive it.
During times of frustration, you may feel like those tethers are steel beams bolting you to the ground or, worse, that you don’t have any fuel in your tank and no power to take off. This is the big illusion that has been taught to you since the day you were born, to rely on the external for support, love and safety. Many people still believe they are helpless babies at the mercy of the world instead of the magnificent being they are inside.
The truth is that your rocket ship is set for true, amazing love, you have plenty of fuel and the tethers are the tiny strings of fear that hold you back. These strings are only powerful as long as you choose to keep them there. The problem is that you keep them in place to protect you for a reason that you may or may not be aware of consciously. If you knew how easy it was just to release the ties that bind, you would have done it already.
Instead of asking yourself what do I need to do next to find true love, ask yourself, ‘What do I need to let go of?” What keeps you hanging on to past and present circumstances?
Exercise: Take out your journal and write down. If I met my true love, what would I have to give up?
The law of sacrifice states that you must give up something of a lower nature (fear) in order to gain something of a higher nature (love). While you may have thought that sacrifice means giving up the things you like, it is quite the contrary. You give up what you have outgrown – old fears, old limiting thinking and old personal stories. Just like a snake who sheds it skin, you can step into a new, true you with ease.
As you let go of the old, you start to see so much more of you that has been hidden away. There is nothing new to create, your amazing self is already inside of you and has been waiting for you to discover her. You reveal the powerful rocket ship of you who can soar through the clouds and touch the stars and become unstoppable.
Start today by identifying one of your old tethers and leave them behind. You could let go of an old behavior, an old pain from a lost love or an old story that keeps you stuck. If you find it difficult, identify why you are afraid to let it go and realize that it isn’t keeping you safe, but imprisoned. Of course, you have more than one tether, but usually there is one big one that makes a huge shift right away.
After releasing your tethers, you will stop meeting men (or women) who strengthen the tethers, reinforcing your own internal fears. Free from the past, you start to meet potential mates who are also ready to soar like you. When you gain the momentum and start to really fly you know that you have found an easier way to grow by letting go and the sky’s limit.