Trying too hard to be perfect? You only need to be at 51%
As you combine your personal and spiritual development with your goal to attract the man of your dreams, you can get caught up in a sticky place of trying too hard to get it right. You are flooded with so many different expert opinions on how to act, why he didn’t call and how to get him to commit that you head goes into a tailspin. With each nugget of wisdom you uncover, you feel as though there is yet one more thing you need to work on so you can be good enough for lasting love.
Taking responsibility for your results as a co-creator with the divine is very powerful, but sometimes you can turn against yourself if the results do not appear as quickly as you want. The more you dig into your psyche and the more stuff gets exposed, you get discouraged that you will never find your way to the promised land. You may misinterpret advice from friends or your therapist or coach as criticism as if you are doing it all wrong. The message you are telling yourself is that if you aren’t perfect, you won’t be attractive to your ideal partner.
When I was single I used to feel this way too. My friend told me once that she doesn’t know anyone who works on herself as much as I did. I took that as a compliment but what I didn’t realize is that I was approaching my personal growth all wrong. I was caught up in a cycle of fixing a problem that really didn’t exist. I was definitely off-track with my love life, but it wasn’t because had to do everything perfectly. It was my thought of imperfection that kept creating my feeling of unworthiness.
To consciously create a love relationship, your internal belief system (thoughts and feelings) and your external action need to be in alignment with what you desire. I help my clients uncover the ideas in their belief system that stop them from taking the right action and being in the love zone. The big lie is that you have to have a perfect belief system and that you have to clear out all of your negative energy to get results.
If you have been working too hard on yourself, you are contributing to the belief system that you aren’t good enough. This is counterproductive and only prolongs your struggle with finding true love. You don’t need to be 100% perfect, you just have to be in alignment 51% to shift the results in your life. Isn’t that a relief?
The day before I met Roberto I was certainly not in the perfect zone. I was freaking out a little about the upcoming holidays, wondering how I could stand yet another holiday season alone. I started to feel a little depressed and hopeless. However, I had shifted just enough to allow the forces to bring him to me the very next day. Through my experience and those of hundreds of other clients I have worked with, I discovered that you only to cross the 51% barrier of alignment for what you consciously desire to be created through you.
I have countless other stories where my clients felt an improvement but had their fair share of bad days. They would send me emails saying “I don’t feel like it will ever happen” and then a week later they would follow-up with “I found him.” The more you can give yourself a break and stop trying too hard to be perfect, the easier the process of personal development will be for you.
The forces of the ego are strong. Living an awakened life against the grain of our human conditioning is not an easy battle. If you can give yourself a break and know that human side of you will always try to pull you back to the status quo, you can face it with power and allow your divine self take over that 51%. You can shift your destiny by relaxing and allowing your powerful self to take charge. There is no force more powerful than love and your ideal partner will love you just the way you are.