Whether you are searching for the love of your life, on a mission to lose weight, or just trying to get your business off the ground, there may be a time when things are not moving forward. When feeling stuck, you may start to give attention to what is not happening and what is wrong. Focusing on your current state of affairs only creates more of the same experience. This behavior is counterproductive and only keeps you immobilized in the status quo. The subconscious desire increases to grasping and feelings of desperation and the last thing you may want to do is surrender to the situation and let go.
I remember when I was single and wanted to meet someone special. I was obsessed with improving myself, devouring every self-help book on relationships and throwing myself in any workshop I could find. This behavior led me to being very hard on myself when a relationship failed or was heartbroken by yet another womanizer. I felt like I should have known better after all the personal growth work I’ve done. I never gave myself a break, and the last thing I wanted to do was to give up and surrender to being single the rest of my life. My thoughts were saturated each day with my unhappy single status and nothing seemed to change.
The more I held on to the pressure of meeting Mr. Right, the more anxious I got. I was trying too hard. The same thing happened when I was building my business. The more I focused on the lack of new clients coming in the door, the less my phone rang. I struggled with my weight in my 20’s until I got distracted with my busy corporate job and the weight came right off. The times that I chose to surrender and let go were the times when everything automatically shifted in the direction that I desired.
A person I know works for a famous author. She told me that he was in a meeting describing to his staff the idea of letting go and allowing. He said to accept everything in your life as if it weren’t going to change and find peace in the here and now. As he was explaining this concept, his secretary came to interrupt the meeting and tell him that Oprah’s assistant was on the phone. He had recently been struggling with increasing his business and wealth and finally came to terms that if nothing changed in his life, he would still be fine. He loved everything he had in that moment, let go and then he was able to receive more.
In the dating world, when you let go and relax you become more attractive. Imagine if everything you wanted in your life was attracted to you when you just relaxed? Sounds too easy, but sometimes the simplest approach is the most powerful one. That is why your business has its ups and downs. The high times compound upon each other to create more abundance. When a doubt enters your mind things may come crashing down again. You pick yourself up and eventually the flow begins to return. There are natural ebbs and flows of life, but most of the bell curves are directed by your state of mind.
Being in gratitude, accepting the gifts that you have in your life right now helps you to stay in the moment and let go. Practicing this daily will not only lift your spirits but you become an abundance magnet. Whether you want the love of your life, to lose weight or increase your business, stand on the edge of unlimited possibility and just let go. Instead of trying to reach out and grasp for things in desperation, relax and allow the goodness to flow to you.
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