In dating, are you play to win or not to lose?
The experts tell you to wait three days to call, don’t act too interested and don’t mention commitment until at least the third month of dating. There are many rules that you may think you need to follow to win at the game of love. Unfortunately, the dating tips and rules actually keep you in the mindset of playing not to lose instead of opening up to true love and playing to win.
When you are overly cautious of getting your heart broken, worried about hurting someone’s feelings or afraid to approach someone for fear of rejection, you are playing not to lose. You hide your true self and put on a mask so that no one can truly enter your heart.
Hiding seems safer to your surface self and your ego justifies the behavior telling you not to trust or take risks and you will be fine. The excuses to hide away from love sound rational but they are only keeping you from reaching your true love potential.
When someone plays not to lose, they wait for the right time to date or to take steps toward love because it just doesn’t “feel right.” These thoughts are the protective shield around your ego that seeks safety not love. The voice sounds rational but it is the voice of fear.
If you play not to lose, you can only experience a limited life. You may protect yourself from heartache but you also cut yourself off from amazing love. You think you are being strong, but you are really just creating a bigger shadow of fear that will follow you and your relationship life.
The part of you that wants to win at love is constantly seeking expression. This divine force inside won’t let you settle or give up and is always at work to push you toward great love. You must believe that your true self is on your side, is your ally, and knows you don’t need protection from the tiny, silly world. You are greater than your ego.
To play to win all you have to do is have faith in this divine force more than you have with your surface ego. Know that you will be carried over the sea of fear into the arms of true love when you face what you once avoided. Be brave, bold and know that you are always safe and secure. If you keep moving toward love without backing down, you and your true love will both win.
What can do change in your life to play to win at love right now?