In dating, are you a hunter or an explorer?
When you are ready to find great love, your success is not determined by specific actions but HOW you approach dating and relationships. Some single people put so much pressure on finding a person as if they were capturing a rare wild animal. Instead of acting as someone on the hunt, why not be an explorer in love and get faster results?
If you are a hunter, you have to plan a strategy to catch the prize game. You have to camouflage yourself (or put on a fake persona) to trick the game to be captured. You don’t really care about the game’s feelings, you are just in for the hunt to trap them and take them home. This sounds so romantic, doesn’t it?
If you approach finding love like an explorer, you have a less aggressive attitude about dating and love. An explorer has an overall mission in mind but isn’t attached to what she finds and is hoping to find something she doesn’t expect. She loves the exploration and learns and grows herself along the way.
When you are an explorer, you relax and become open to the process of meeting and examining that strange species of potential romantic partners. You don’t take it personally when there isn’t a fit. You simply observe, take note and make adjustments for your next exploration. The hunter is pressured to get the kill every time but the explorer is happy with the new knowledge and the strength that comes from the journey.
Of course, this is much easier to understand as a concept than to put into practice. This is especially difficult if your tendency is to rush the result, to force it and to worry that love will never happen. This intensity creates the hunter in you. Do you know what happens when an animal senses its prey? It runs and hides. Clearly this is not a good strategy and probably why you haven’t dated much lately.
So, in order to become the explorer, you must first make your goal not finding another person but finding your true self. You stop trying to be someone that you think others want and understand and know yourself. You start to see the real you beyond your surface persona and investigate your shadow side through your dating and relating with others.
If you explore inside as you explore outside, you will break free from your ego-conditioning that searches for love out of fear and scarcity. You can become the real you who feels powerful and whole, so the person who is meant for the real you can see you. When you focus on understanding and loving yourself, you can’t help but attract a person who mirrors that intense interest in loving and knowing you too. You can find another explorer of love and life to play with!