How to feel your date
Do you know that a normal part of your human experience is to interpret and feel other’s energy? I am not talking about auras and spirits, but actual biological processes! On a subconscious level, you can read someone much greater than your conscious mind is aware. If you are present to your own feelings, you can pick up the signals as to whether someone is interested in you and even if they should be trusted.
Many singles go against their own inner nudging and grovel after the guy or girl that is not right for them. The quickly dismiss their own red flags which are right in their face and fall fast for Mr. or Ms. Wrong. Feeling fooled after the relationship doesn’t work out, they wonder how they could make a better decision in the future. They can avoid this if they listen and be present with every date.
Each person has subtle body cues, facial expressions, tonality in their voice that give away a plethora of information about who they are, what they want and how they feel in your presence. You are not built to process all of these signs on a conscious level, but you can check in with yourself as to how you feel when you are with him or her to access subconscious clues. You may not know why or what indicators gave you insight, but the important thing to identify is your true inner voice telling you “yes” or “next.”
The problem with internet dating is that you don’t get to take advantage of your full intuitive abilities via email and texting. You can never know if there is a connection until you are both in each other’s full presence. Have you ever had a great email or text relationship until you meet in person and then everything falls apart? You think, “What happened to that amazing guy with all that character?” What you were really feeling is your excitement about the possibility of love and the man with the text fulfilled your fantasy. Unfortunately, it was your over-exaggeration of who he was that created the disappointment.
I also find that it is much easier to pretend over email or text. When meeting a person face-to-face, someone who has trouble with communicating will have a more uncomfortable experience. Their nervousness sends out a feeling of distress turning off their potential partner. Electronically, that fear is disguised well with an array of emoticons. Anyone can put a smiley face or LOL in an email, but can they really express that in the flesh?
Check in with your feelings and see if the signal he or she is sending is pleasant or unpleasant. You don’t need to go to a psychic to discover your romantic future; just access the magic subconscious crystal ball deep within you. A daily practice of self-hypnosis visualizing your ideal mate will give you a clue as to how you want to feel in their presence. As you familiarize yourself with that feeling, you become an expert in recognizing the right person for you and alleviate dating distractions.