How dating tips are putting blocks around your heart
Dating advice on changing your behavior creates more barriers to love than opening doors. Sure, you can get more dates, even get people to call you back, but if you do it based on your false self you will only find a short-term romance. The process of creating this false “acceptable” persona has been going on since you were very young and society has reinforced this with the misguided dating advice given to singles.
Since you were a child, you sought approval from others and were taught to behave in a way that doesn’t turn people off or make them think badly of you. You create your persona to shield your true tender self from harm and rejection. The walls of the ego (persona) prevent you from really connecting in an honest way to others.
Instead of accepting yourself, you are told that you are single because you don’t know how to act on a date and that’s why he didn’t call or why she didn’t commit. They tell you that you are too needy or clinging or distant or called too soon or called too late. Ultimately, you are led to believe that something is wrong with you and how you act.
If you could just change your behavior, then they will stay, marry you and love you. This implies you aren’t good enough already and you have to put on an act to gain their love. How can this be helpful to anyone?
People fit together like puzzle pieces. You will always attract a person that reflects your own self-acceptance. By following dating tips you will only draw in people who are also putting on an act. They are closed off from love and that’s why they didn’t call, not because you didn’t offer to pay the check or texted him after the date.
The key to opening your heart is to move beyond the walls of your manufactured persona and step into your magnificence. When you do this, you won’t need any dating advice because you will automatically bring in the right match who reflects your divine self-identity.
So, throw out your rules book and be who YOU want to be. Your true love will love will accept you as much as you do.