Facing the Fear to Get to Love
Imagine that you are facing a door and waiting on the other side of the door is your ideal partner. You want to open that door but there is something in your way…your greatest fear. You are faced with a dilemma. You can stay back and settle for the same relationships or lack of love you have been experiencing or face your greatest fear to get to the person of your dreams on the other side.
How most people deal with this dilemma is they dance around the fear by trying to find another way to the door to love. They look for quick fixes, magical tricks or even sitting back praying that their destiny will change if they just hang out and wait long enough. They get to the point where they have exhausted all the other options and secretly hope that there is still way around it.
Your subconscious mind is programmed to avoid pain and move you toward pleasure, so it will gladly send you down some long, winding roads that lead to nowhere. You may justify your delay in love’s arrival by the poor choices of men in your city or your industry or the fact that there are just no good men left. The subconscious has won and inside there is a deep relief that you just don’t have to face that fear…today.
You probably don’t realize that is what you have been doing. All the workshops, healings and learning about men seemed like they were making a dent in your broken relationship patterns, but they were just skimming the surface of the real issue. You most likely know the fear and have felt it before but really, really wish it would just go away. Or, you think the love of your life will be the one to save you from it.
The problem is the person you desire is on the other side of the fear. This is a road you have to travel alone to get to them. You have to be willing to look at the darker parts of you with courage so that you never feel trapped by them again. This is the path to extraordinary love.
The most rewarding part of the journey is that your ideal partner is facing his or her own inner dragons to find you. You always get the perfect match equivalent to level of consciousness you are operating. If you stay in your comfort zone, you will find mediocre partners who bore you. If you are willing to take on the heroine’s battle to conquer the fear, your reward will be the partner of your dreams.
Visualize yourself in front of that door. Imagine the door revealing words or symbols that reflect your biggest fear. Once you know what your fear is, you must face it in a situation in your life. It will feel scary, such as speaking up for yourself or saying “no” to people, or opening your heart for an intimate conversation. For many, joining a coaching program and asking for support can bring up all sorts of fears and anxiety because the subconscious is panicking that change is on the horizon. If taking action feels incredibly uncomfortable, you know you are on the right track. Remember freedom is always on the other side.
I learned long ago that to get what you’ve never had, you have to do what you’ve never done. Once you overcome your inner obstacle, you will be stronger and more ready for love than ever before. You realize you had the power within you all along to draw in your true love and wonder why you waited so long to break free.
You will find that you are already living your greatest fear and that stepping outside of your comfort zone will be a welcome relief from the trapped existence of perceived limitation. The journey is a necessary process in becoming your amazing self and you will be glad you followed the high road to reach your true destiny.