Do you believe what you see in your love life?
Have you ever felt that excitement when you finally get inspired to take action toward finding love? Then, after a few bad dates or even just a week of seeing the “wrong” people showing up online, you quickly lose your enthusiasm and feel as though nothing is ever going to change. You simply believe what you see.
Maybe you just rode the wave of inspiration after a great self-help book or attended a transforming workshop. The awakening quickly turns to disappointment when you don’t see the changes right away and you start to feel as if you are going backwards again. You beat yourself up because now you have all this wisdom and still wonder what is wrong with you.
The status-quo mindset trap will keep you stuck more than any psychological block to love. You lose your focus and start believing that what you can see in the physical world is more real than the desires you imagine in your heart.
Everything you see in the external world creates a corresponding form in your unconscious mind. Your mind records what you witness and continues to manifest the same experience. If you see no love in sight and you believe in it, you will keep creating it. This can lead to dating exhaustion.
To break out of this mindset trap, you have to hold your focus on what you want, not what you see out there. This is the toughest part about creating a new life experience. You have to hold the image of what you want in your mind before you can see it in your world, not the other way around.
Although it may feel like a difficult task, it is not impossible to maintain the focus. You can use visualizations daily to imagine yourself in love. You can send love to happy couples that pass you by and say “me too” instead of “why am I still alone?” You can say “next” after you had a bad date and remain hopeful for the next person who comes in to your life.
To get into a new habit of thinking takes practice. The secret is that you only have to hold it at 51% – just believe more than you doubt to tip the scales toward a new destiny.
Instead of learning about the law of attraction, study the law of perception. Pull your attention inward instead of trying to draw in a person out there. You cannot experience something in your life until you have the image formed in your mind first.
Instead of believing what you see out there, believe what you see inside and trust that you can create the life and love that you imagine.