Dating and Unconditional Love
You hear the phrase “unconditional love” and you may desire this type of relationship in your life. Seeking for someone to love all of who you are seems like a dream or far from reality sometimes, but this type of higher level love is attainable every day if you know how to find it. You know that everyone is your mirror and the way you see the world starts from inside of you.
So when searching for a loving partner, how much are you unconditionally-loving toward yourself? Do you forgive yourself easily when things don’t go right or when you make a mistake? Do you review your last date combing through the details in your mind to figure out what you said or did wrong that caused him not to call you again? When you are single and struggling with love, it makes it even more difficult to really love yourself. That is the time, though, that you desperately need unconditional love.
To truly love yourself unconditionally means not to only give yourself a pat on the back when a gal or guy you like calls or you feel “in the zone” and attractive. It is so easy to feel love when things are going your way. It is during those times when you are stressed or feel like you really messed up that you need to give yourself an inner hug and words of encouragement regardless of your external conditions. Even when you can’t imagine that things could be any worse, you can generate the love feeling within you.
An easy way to create this love experience is to imagine that there is a more powerful you standing just behind you with hands on your shoulders. This larger-you can talk to the human-you and say, “I know things are tough but I believe in you and I love you.” This wiser part of you has unwavering love for you and is the part of you that is changeless and constant throughout the drama of life– unconditionally. Some people refer to this part as God or their higher self or power. Whatever label fits within your belief system is perfectly fine, but the most important thing to remember is that this unconditional love is a part of YOU.
Each person you meet shows you how you truly feel about yourself. The amount of self-love you have will be matched in exact proportion of your experience with them. If you get dumped, your reaction will be a reflection of the quality of your love-mind. Single life has its ups and downs, and not everyone is going to be your ideal partner. Having an ally in your mind to rely upon for unconditional love will make the dating road less rocky and the ride so much more fun. The more love you allow for yourself, the greater the love you invite into your life.
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