Can you be your own Love Coach?
You may often think about protecting your hair from the rain or the right bra for support, but who is watching over your mind? The mind can be your greatest asset but often weaves silly stories that stop you from getting what you truly want – true love.
Did you know that single people typically spend from $1K to $10K for online dating sites and matchmakers and less than 10% actually find love? Most people don’t come out of the box ready for that ultimate relationship because their minds are not in alignment and they are just throwing their money away.
Being single for twenty years, I fumbled through self-help books, workshops and magical incantations to attract my soulmate and nothing worked. The best year of my life was working with my coach on my business because much of what I received support on was my love life. She was my “unofficial” love coach. If it wasn’t for her, I would have run for the hills when I met my man because it was so far out of my comfort zone to be loved. My coach saved me from myself by helping me get out of my fear and jump into the wild adventure of a healthy relationship.
A few years ago, I decided to stop working with my coach because I met my true love and signed a contract with Wiley to publish my book. I felt like I was done and I could start coaching myself. I was a coach, after all. Unfortunately, instead of saving me a few hundred dollars a month on a coach, I wasted a lot of money and time on the wrong things and my business nearly fell apart.
I was stuck in my own mind-stuff, unclear of my direction and it was hard to see where I was holding myself back. I was supposed to be this “master” of the mind and I felt like a terrible failure. Out of desperation, I gave away so much of myself by working long hours for very low fees to fit with my clients’ needs while ignoring my own. It was like I was out there in the dating world again, feeling not good enough and having to overcompensate to make people like me…even when my clients were getting great results! It didn’t make logical sense to me but my mind was tripping me up big time.
I knew I needed to get out of my head and I set the intention to find the right coach. I tried to do some coaching swapping with my colleagues and some quick fix techniques, but nothing worked for me for very long. Then, an angel came to me via email (she’s a real person but is a true angel) and with the little money I had left in my bank account and a leap of faith, I invested in her coaching program.
She helped me get out of my own way and, best of all, really see my true self and purpose in the world. With a few simple shifts, my business started to flow again, I created stronger boundaries with my time and more opportunities started to come to me. I have been interviewed on television stations around the country and now working with a producer in LA on my very own television show. I can honestly say that I wasted a ton of money on investing in the wrong things for my business but the smartest investment I ever made was hiring mycoach.
I studied personal growth for twenty years and, even with all that knowledge, the mind will find a way to hold you back. I knew how I should think and what I should do but I needed someone outside of my head to show me what I couldn’t see myself that was causing the disharmony in my business.
You may wonder what all this has to do with you. Well, if you really want the ultimate partner and love isn’t happening for you, you could be throwing your money away on the wrong things and wasting precious time trying to do it on your own. You may argue that you don’t need help finding love, it should come easy, right? Well, only 5% of people effortlessly attract their ideal partner, 85% settle for less and the unique 10% create the inner shifts required to get the ultimate relationship.
The reason true love is so uncommon is that humans have a hard time excepting their worth with all the past conditioning from childhood, failed relationships or lack of relationships in their life. Most people never change their default subconscious template and never find their true love because of this. They continue to date online and wonder why they aren’t meeting any quality people. They cannot see the patterns that are right in front of them and can get stuck for years in a cycle of heartache.
Having a personal coach (whether it is me or someone else) is critical to helping you navigate through the mental distractions, justifications and fears that show up when you want a change in your life. Subconsciously, we reject change. A coach can help you rise about the noise in your mind and see the horizon of your dreams come true. Another benefit is that your coach can hold the vision of what you desire with you so you have the power of two minds focusing on your success.
Sure, you could be your own love coach and go the cheap route. Finding the cheapest and free love attraction downloads and piece your love life together yourself. For some people that is all they need and others are just delaying the arrival of their true love and wasting a ton of time and money on quick fix magical tricks that don’t work.
How much is finally breaking free of your love past worth it to you? So many people get in their own way when investing in themselves by using excuses such as “I can’t afford it” or “I’ll find a cheaper option” or “maybe in a few months because I am spending that money on something else.” For the most important person in your life…YOU and the second most important person…YOUR TRUE LOVE, isn’t getting the right Love Coach worth the investment?
Don’t discount the most important area of your life!
So, I have a special invitation for you. I only have a few spots left in my Elite Love Coaching Program so I am doing a F*REE Coaching session drive over the next few weeks so I can find the right clients to fill those last coveted spots this year. There is an application process and, if your application is accepted, you get a F*REE 30-minute coaching session with me and we can have a chance to talk privately to see if my program is a good fit for both of us.
Kind of like a first date – we both have to feel the chemistry for the program to work. I don’t accept just anyone as a client unless I feel I can really help them.