Are you waiting to win the love lottery?
There is a difference between wanting something and being emotionally ready to receive it. One of the main reasons why I see people struggle in finding love is that they are waiting for the relationship to come in and change their life instead of changing their life so they can have the relationship.
Do you believe that once you meet someone that you win the love lottery? If just the right person would appear, do you believe your world would be completely different and you can finally stop suffering in life and be happy?
Imagine this. A businessman, a factory worker or an office clerk all buy lottery tickets each week, hoping that one day their luck will change and they can quit their job and be free of money trouble.
They do all the rituals including making sure they pick the same numbers, go to the same store to buy them and not miss a week because that could be the week their numbers will be picked. They put their tickets on their refrigerator and pray that this will be the lucky week when everything changes.
After years have passed everything remains the same, including their dissatisfaction with life. For a few short hours when they buy their ticket they imagine a new life and hope of a new future, which only crashes when they read the numbers in the news or paper that don’t match their tickets.
Now the ones who win the lottery have a bigger problem. According to the National Endowment for Financial Education, they estimate that 70 percent of people who had unexpectedly come into large sums of money ended up broke within seven years.
The ones that don’t win also lose big because, instead of investing in educating themselves to go to the next level, or finding another career to fulfill their life, they put all of their efforts in hoping that luck will decide their fate. They spent years of their life wasted in waiting instead of consciously creating.
Does this remind you of how you have been approaching your search for a relationship? Do you hope that one day a person is going to come in and save you?
So many people want the relationship but aren’t prepared to being in one. They either never met anyone they like or unconsciously sabotage the relationships they find. They didn’t prepare for love.
Now you may think that love is supposed to be natural, that your parents didn’t have to take classes in relationships. Marriage was different fifty years ago and they jumped into relationships blindly for security and social reasons. The lack of self-knowledge has lead to a divorce rate of nearly 60%. The marriages that last either put up with dissatisfaction or they actively went to therapy or workshops to learn how to relate to each other to save the marriage.
Carl Jung says, “The best time to work on your relationship is before you get in one.” So instead of looking to win the love lottery to save you, start searching inside to see how you are the prize and save yourself.
Instead of waiting for a love miracle, invest in yourself and prepare your mind to receive great love. Then, you meet that special person, you will allow them into your heart. Invest in understanding your true self so you can see your partner with kind eyes and have that kindness reflected back to you.
Fortune favors the prepared mind. -Dr. Louis Pasteur