Are you prepared for love?
Wanting something and being ready for it are two separate things. Like anything in life, you can only accept things and experiences that you are prepared to receive. Finding your true love is like winning the lottery. It is a fact that most lottery winners go bankrupt within the first year after winning their prize money because their mind was simply not prepared to accept the abundance given to them. Unconsciously, they spend all their money immediately because their inner mind holds a certain value of their worth. Their outer riches did not match their poverty mindset. So, eventually the inner mind wins and the external world mirrors what is inside.
I have coached thousands of singles over the years and one common thread I see in them is this desperation to make love happen. Yes, and I have also seen this in myself. They do just enough self-reflective work and impatiently want to get on to find “the one.” Then, time and time again I hear stories from singles who meet someone absolutely wonderful and they are unprepared to receive the love. They find fault with the person and run away or put on the vice grip and squeeze all the romance out of connection until he/she finally bolts.
If you feel even the slightest hint of desperation to make it happen, you may not be fully prepared for true love. With a love poverty mindset, you will attract people temporarily but they will quickly read your inner doubts about yourself and the bond will dissolve.
Trying to take short cuts and quick fix tricks or skimming on the surface, will eventually backfire. Don’t you want to be in a lasting, long-term relationship instead of more brief love affairs? There is no way around it. In order to have extraordinary love, you must believe inside how extraordinary you are and, for most people, it takes a little practice. Of course, you can settle for less, but you did that already. Now it is time to really make a breakthrough.
Sometimes I hear singles complain that they don’t want to go through the dating process. They hate having to reject people or deal with being rejected. They just want to show up at the ball and meet their Prince. Or, maybe they have dated so much that they just don’t see the point any more. Dating is the best form of practice you can do to prepare for the greatest love of your life. You have to warm up and condition yourself before you get to the big event. Mastering the art of dating will train you to be more flexible, loving and kind to yourself in your true love relationship.
The reason most people don’t go deep and prepare is because they unconsciously are afraid to be loved. Maybe they were rejected early in life and love is just too scary to open up to again. Sometimes people get stuck on the self-help treadmill because they are hiding out from stepping into that amazing love experience. The deep mind is not logical so what makes no sense to you, makes total sense to the inner mind which is the mentality of a nine year old. They go out “pretending” to look but unconsciously they don’t want to find their partner because they are afraid of what the other person will see.
A large majority of the population isn’t prepared for amazing love. It is much easier to have a surface relationship. They settle for less and you see the evidence in the divorce rate, infidelity and sexless marriages. You are still single because deep inside you know there is something more to experience in a romantic relationship, you want extraordinary love. This higher level love doesn’t come without opening up deeper to discover the true, amazing you already inside. This is the road that takes courage but the rewards are sublime.
If you are worried that your true love hasn’t arrived yet, think of this delay as your inner knowing allowing you more time to prepare. Celebrate that you still have some practice time to build up your inner “market value” so that when he or she comes into your life you can welcome them with an open heart. You don’t have to strive for perfection, but even a slight adjustment inside can make a huge impact on the quality of the relationship you attract into your life.