Escaping Law of Attraction Limbo
Remember when you first learned of the law of attraction? Whether it was decades ago or just recently with the release of the movie “the Secret,” do you feel like you still don’t completely get how it works? At first, you feel liberated and in control of your life’s destiny. Then, after a few weeks or months practicing affirmations, vision boards and spiritual mantras to call in your beloved, the money or perfect health, you get frustrated with yourself and this whole idea.
You start to wonder if it really works and if these experts are just selling you snake-oil and getting rich over this big scam. Or, you may be one of those who blame yourself and feel like something is wrong with you because you can’t manifest things like the woman in your spiritual circle who brags about all the money she has attracted with her vision board.
What I find in working with thousands of people across the world throughout the years is something that keeps most people stuck in their same love patterns, money patterns and health problems regardless of the many law of attraction tricks they attempt. Besides the subconscious component that is often ignored with many of the law of attraction teachers, this problem is something even bigger.
The biggest setback with the law of attraction is the name itself. The word “attraction” is misleading because it implies that what you want is outside of you. You were lead to believe that love and money is separate from you, an external thing or person that will be brought to you from out there. There is a gap and separation here that gives that external thing or person that you desire all the power. You were led to believe that this thing you want contains all the happiness, joy and well-being that you don’t have yet.
When I learned about this law it was called by another name…the “Law of Correspondence.” This is actually a more accurate description of this law. What is within you (subconscious & conscious thoughts, energy, emotions, etc.) corresponds to what you experience out there. YOU are the creator and the source of all you want is within.
So you don’t need to attract anything outside of you, you can create it from your own beingness. If you believe you are one with the universe and God/Divine, then there is no separation. You have access to all the love and abundance all the time, flowing from you out not out there to you.
Law of attraction limbo is created by the illusion that you need to attract something into your life from out there. Let’s make the picture clearer for you. Imagine a donkey with the stick and carrot in front of him. The law of attraction makes you follow the carrot. There is always a gap between where you are and what you want. So the donkey gets tired and never gets the carrot. He is separate from the carrot so he can never attract it.
So, how do you have all the love and money you want? I know you have to pay your rent and have intimate relationships and be healthy. But when you need something, you don’t resonate with the energy of it whether it is love or money. Instead the need creates a projection of lack or desperation. You wait to attract the thing you want to have the feeling of it. This always causes that gap between you and the carrot.
The law of attraction limbo is created by falling for these traps:
Trap No. 1: Believing that what you want is greater than you. (You really want a feeling not a person/thing. The feeling is already inside.)
Trap No. 2: Believing that having things or people in your life defines you in any way or something you need to attain to prove something, make you better, more likable or worthy.
Trap No. 3: Thinking you need to be more spiritually enlightened to manifest what you want.
Trap No. 4: Believing that having these things or people will make you happier than you are right now.
Trap No. 5: Thinking that having more money or finding love is hard and you have to do a lot of inner work to be able to have your dream life.
Trap No. 6: Fate or destiny intervenes with your desires.
You were trained from the time you were a child to seek approval, get good grades, earn degrees, do well at work to get a raise or promotion and so on. It is normal for you to believe that you can apply the law of attraction the same way. If you do it right and do it well, then you will get something in return from out there.
You are already creating your life. You have been doing it all along. If you can look at your life and not blame external circumstances or fate that your life is the way it is, you can then begin to take responsibility for everything. Do not get into blaming yourself because much of what you have created has been from subconscious material. Not all of what you have in your life is your conscious choice, but you did choose it on a deeper level. If you look at everything in your life, you can begin to see how powerful you are that created every great day and every no-so great day.
You can take credit for all the money and opportunities and love that surround you now as well as all the bad business deals, heartbreaks, losses of income and even people stealing from you. You have to believe you create it all and not pick and choose what is fate and what is your own creation.
Believe me, it would be so much easier to think that there is a force out there making decisions for you and leading you on a path of destiny. You can sit back, take a ride and feel sorry for yourself for your bad luck. You can explain the bad things by saying “everything happens for a reason” and the good things as if you were being specially blessed. People who believe this have no use for the law of correspondence.
Law of attraction limbo is when you vacillate between being the creator and being a victim of circumstance. You can’t have it both ways. Pick a side.
If you are one of those who know the truth, you know that you co-create your life with the divine (however you define him/her/it). You know that you have access to unlimited wealth, love, health and power. You already have the carrot in your possession and you enjoy the process of creation. You stop comparing yourself to what others have and know that all that you desire is already yours (even if it hasn’t manifested into physical reality yet).
You truly know what William Ernest Henley meant in the words of Invictus, “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”
It is from this place that you can escape Law of Attraction limbo. You close the gap between what you want and what you have. You start to live in the moment and become free. You see your life as a beautiful movie where you are the producer instead of the actor reading someone else’s lines, victim to someone else’s script. Stand in that space right here knowing all you desire is already yours. Engage the feeling as if you have all you desire in your possession right now and simply claim it. Once you accept your powerful self, you will see more money, love and abundance in all areas flow to you effortlessly.