Are you focusing your will on being single?
One thing that I know for sure is that we were born with the power of choice. Most people don’t realize that everything in life is a choice, not just what to wear or what to eat but also the choice to be in love. We choose our life by one simple task, what we focus on with our mind.
When you focus on something, you are putting your will toward it. You are telling the forces of nature to give me more of this. I see many singles put vision boards and affirmations to help them visualize what they want, but they do not attract love. Why? Because they are putting their focus and “will” on NOT being single, so they are getting what they are avoiding.
With all of its complexities, the unconscious mind is sometimes very simple. It follows your focus. So, when you go online and see there are no men there for you and you get upset about it, you are focusing your attention on not finding someone. Instead of being happy for your friend who just got engaged, you focus on why it still hasn’t happened for you. Get the picture?
You keep sending the forces of your mind in the direction of what you don’t want, what you don’t like and not on how things are going to work for you. The world is a reflection of the primary thoughts held in your mind.
If you want to see your true focus, do this quick exercise. Take out a piece of paper and draw a vertical line down the middle. On the left, write down all the thoughts that come to your mind on how it will not happen for you. Then, on the right, allow your mind to send you all the ways it will happen for you.
Which column has the most written under it? Which one brings up the most energy or feelings? The energy flows where the attention goes.
Now, don’t beat yourself up. This is NORMAL. The mind will normally point you to evidence of the past and limit your thinking toward the left column. It takes more mental effort to push your mind to the other side. The side of possibility.
Watch your thoughts this week. Ask yourself, “what column am I focused on?” The first step to changing your thoughts is becoming of aware of them. Then, start to shift and change them. It won’t happen overnight but you don’t need to have 100% of your focus on the right column, just 51% of the time. When you hit that critical mass, you will start to see things change in your outer world.
The power to attract your true love has always been inside of you. Of course, this is just a small step to shift your thinking but a powerful one. The best way to manage your mind is getting the help of a coach to give you a reset when you stray off-track and work with your unconscious mind to make focusing on what you want a strong habit. Once you get into the groove of new thinking, you will get even faster results.